Not today.
I have always been a believer of setting an intention for
your day to keep you focused and grounded on the positive, as well as recording
what you are grateful for each night. And
I still am….although this may seem to put a little bit of a different spin on
this practice.
Lately I find myself doing a bit of the reverse and have
been setting the intention for myself each day with saying: “Not Today.”
This seems to go against my normal positivity, however I
have been finding that it is necessary and helping me keep my sanity when faced
with difficult conversations, situations and people…as well as my own thoughts
and opinions when my mind wanders to the less positive.
What do I mean? Let me break it down for you.
I get up each morning and say to myself, “Not Today”. This is
the answer that could pertain to the following:
- Will I let someone to treat me rudely?
- Will I allow for my viewpoint to remain silent?
- Will I accept the status quo?
- Will I take a back seat and watch things unfold that I don’t agree with?
- Will I allow for anyone else to treat me less than I deserve to be treated?
- Will I let someone walk all over me?
- Will I over-compromise my own beliefs?
- Will I allow myself to judge my self-worth against others?
- Will I accept something that I feel I need more information on?
- Will I be a witness to something that makes me feel uncomfortable?
- Will I overcommit myself?
- Will I feel bad about not reaching a certain goal I have set for myself?
NOPE…NOT Today. Tomorrow?
Sure, maybe I’ll let you push me around tomorrow. But I’m definitely not going
to allow for that today.
It’s like there is this little voice in my head reminding me
of the things I don’t want to observe, fall victim to or put up with, and when
it goes off, I have this burst of additional strength to speak up for myself and/or
take the action that makes the most sense (depending on the situation).
I feel more empowered and ready to face not only potential conflict
that may arise, but myself. I’m more
equipped somehow to hold myself accountable to the goals I set such as working
out, drinking more water than I ever thought I could, or something as simply
not allowing a day to go by without telling someone I love them. When I find myself hinting toward an excuse to
not do something I set out to do, I say, “not today” and make sure I tackle it
head on, and smash it.
The result: I am happier. I am accomplishing more goals. I
am not dwelling on the would-haves, could-haves or should-haves. I am looking
back on the “I dids” instead and feeling more confident tackling whatever else
may come my way. And others may learn that I'm not going to put up with their shenanigans without out least saying something about it.
Are you up for giving it a try? If so—let me know how your “not
today” goes! I'd love to hear from you!
Xo
Gina